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paganchick’s Story: Man follows her on her walk to the El, all the way up the escalator

While walking from home to the El, I crossed paths with a man. He had been walking with a friend, who he ditched to walk with me for an entire block in an attempt to pick me up. He asked if I had a boyfriend, but continued to ask me out and for me to take his number after I told him I was married and showed him my ring.

He revealed little of himself, but asked a lot of me, even inquiring as to whether I’ve dated black men before (he’s black and I’m white) and why those relationships ended. He even claimed that Jamaican men like him treat their women like queens, without a hint of realization at the irony of his kidnapping my time for the ransom of my attention while ignoring my kind but clear rejections.

Entering the station, I expected to escape, but he followed me up the escalator. I lost him at the turnstyle since he didn’t have busfare. Just another clueless “nice guy” I couldn’t have educated without further compromising myself.

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PhillyChick’s Story: His harassment makes a bad day worse.

I’m in the Walgreen’s on a late afternoon in Center City. I’ve had a rough week and am not in the best mood, but I try to keep my public face on and smile at other customers, including one overweight white man probably 10+ years older than me wearing a crisp white suit and red/white polka dot bowtie.

He responds to my smile with a verbal hello and I reply in kind. We continue to shop on our own and end up in line together at the registers.

He says “you look sad” and I reply “I’m not having the best day” figuring my mood would likely discourage him from continuing the conversation. Instead, he tells me his name and shakes my hand.

He still hasn’t let go of my hand and has started stroking the other side of it before asking what I do for a living. Without answering his question, I pull my hand away saying “I’d like my hand back.” He holds on at first but then relents, saying “but I like it” and before I can think of what to say/do the cashier calls me to the register.

The man continues and says he’d like to take me out. I say “I’m married” and flash my ring. He says I don’t look married, and that I look like a free agent…” I leave the store after telling him to take care, even if only to model appropriate behavior for this man who obviously does not pick up on social cues from women he finds attractive.

Now I’m feeling gross because I can still sense the pressure of his hand having touched mine for so long and with such ignorant intent.

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Nina’s Story: He follows and then touches and kisses her, while her hands are full.

I was walking down Girard avenue towards front street to catch the train when a guy in a black shirt started yelling ” looks like you could use some help with those bags”, ” can I walk you home ?”. My hands were filled with bags as I had just stopped by the Superfresh. I thought his comments were innocent enough so I responded with a ” thanks, but no “. I had made my way to the corner when the light turned red so I had to stop. The guy in the black shirt made his way to me as I waited for the light and just started staring at me. He started saying how beautiful I was and again just stared at me. I was confused wondering why he was so close to me and looking so strange. He then asked if I had a boyfriend which I quickly replied yes. He said ” I hope he’s taking care of you” and then proceeded to grab me tightly and kissed me on the forehead. As soon as the light turned I just walked away. I was stunned that a stranger thought it ok to touch and kiss me. I was also amazed at how uncomfortable and unsafe I could feel in a public place.

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anne’s Story: At 14, she had to give him a fake number to get him to back off and leave her alone at subway stop

When I was 14 I was taking the bus home from school a teenage boy say next to me and after we made eye contact he asked my name which I refused to tell him, afterwards he asked questions such as where I lived and if I had a boyfriend, I thought if I told him yes he would leave me alone , he took out his phone and coaxed me into putting my number into his phone, he wouldn’t leave me alone so I entered a fake number and that’s when he left me alone

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iPhone User Submission: Repeatedly shouted at her, then said “I didn’t realize you were too good” when she ignored him.

A man sitting on his porch yelled “how you doing baby?” over and over while I walked by. Because I ignored him he yelled “well excuse me. I didn’t realize you were too good.”

 

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Kate’s Story: Grocery shopping cut short because man followed her around the store repeatedly harassing her

I was grocery shopping when a man approached me in the aisle. He said, “wow you are pretty! can i talk to you for a minute?” and i said, “sir i am in a rush to get some food, i don’t have time now, thank you!” and he said, “now wait a second, you will have time for a man like me.” then he proceeded, as i walked away, to follow me, aisle by aisle, asking why i won’t talk to him. I turned around and said, “you are too old for me (he was at least 50, i am 30), and I am not interested.” this turned into negativity and he wouldn’t let me get away. I finally decided to leave early, without getting the food i needed. I waited in the checkout line, he followed. he shouted after me as i drove away, i was only able to get about 5 things.

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kmtop’s Story: Vulgar sounds and comments as she is waiting for the light to turn so she can cross the street

Waiting to cross the street after running 4 miles, I was on the phone with my significant other seeing when he would be home. As I was waiting for the light to turn so I could cross I hear someone make kissing sounds. I turn around and two older gentlemen are standing behind me and one mutters that I have a “fuckable pussy”. I just gave him this look like I was going to kill him and walked away, I was afraid they would follow me.

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Jewel’s Story: He stalks her throughout 7/11 as she tries to buy her morning cup of coffee

One morning I was on my way into work and stopped into 7/11 to grab a coffee. A man was at the counter checking out while i proceeded past him to get my drink from the fridges. After the man had been checked out he returned to the fridge next to where i was looking, and he kept staring. Having dealt with this before i told him just flat out, I have a boyfriend, in hopes to end the conversation before it got started. But it only worsened. He continued by getting mad at me, telling me that i was ugly and that he would never want to get with me, and telling me that i should just shut up and stop talking and that i shouldn’t say another word. No one really stepped in, the lady at the counter asked me if i was okay. Then the man came back to me at the counter and said that yes in fact he was trying to hit on me though he never apologized. I was too upset to care. I appreciated his honesty but the matter of fact was that simply because i did not feel the same way towards him that he did me, it was okay for him to get mad at me and for me just to go on with my day like nothing happened? and no one had my back or said anything to him. That i think was the worst part, that i was completely alone in that moment and if he had followed me or had gotten angrier, anything could have happened.

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